The Onus Of Control


Imagine for a moment, you walk into a room filled with money nerds.  All eyes in the room are on you, because you’re giving a presentation on personal finance.  With sweaty palms you step up the podium and do a quick mike-check:

“One million.  Two million.  Three million.  Can everyone hear me OK?”

Those pleasantries completed, you begin with your opening line — A question designed to engage and entice an apathetic audience.

“Good afternoon everyone.  Before I begin today, I’d like to do a quick pole of the room — How many of you feel like you’re truly in control of your finances?  Raise a hand if you think you’ve got it under control.”

Ostensibly, most of the room is money nerds, so of course they’re going to be raising their hands.

A sea of hands shoot into the air with the confidence of true believers.

Today I’d like to make the argument that believing you have control over your finances is a lot like believing you’re a good driver — (everyone thinks they’re a “above average driver”) when in fact, control is something most people lack.

 

The Costs You Control Vs. The Costs You Don’t

Who sets prices for things where you live?  If you walk into a restaurant, the cost of a meal is usually set by the owner of the restaurant.  If you rent an apartment, the landlord usually sets how much rent is.

Rarely do consumer get control over the prices of goods and services they utilize.  Instead consumers most frequently have control over how much of a thing they consume, not the price.  For example, they might choose to walk-out of a restaurant if they decide the menu prices are too high.  Or, they might choose to move from an apartment if the landlord raises rent too much.

In some situations, the consumer might not have any control at all.  For example, lets say you need to get your Honda fixed by a reputable repair place, and there’s only one Honda dealer in town.  Owners of the dealership know consumers will tolerate extremely high prices for the trust associated with that brand-name.  In cases like these, with no competition, consumers lose every time!

And then they wonder why they “just can’t get ahead anymore”…

While I’m not here to cry over the fate of the common consumer — I DO want to make a point about controlling costs.  Those who control costs win, and those who don’t have control lose.

Over the years, I’ve begun to hypothesize that a large part of wealth building, is finding ways to control more costs and not falling victim to the businesses that try to control them for you.

 

Food

Generally speaking, consuming food is something everyone has to do, and it definitely has a cost.  But how many calories you consume and where you consume those calories makes a gigantic difference in the financial outcome.

It’s an unfortunate fact that nearly 40% of adults in the United States are now obese.  I’m going to go out on a limb here and say that’s too high.  It is a staggering amount of money wasted on excess fat.

Not only that, but spending on dining-out, has now surpassed that of grocery spending.

dining out vs. groceries

In other words, people are willingly choosing to eat too much, and then are increasingly handing over the financial control of that food to a restaurant owner who wants to earn a tidy profit.

Who do you think is going to win in a situation like that?  Doesn’t it sound like a big wealth builder?  Or, does it sound like the perfect recipe for financial mediocrity?

When you ask, most people would say that they don’t enjoy cooking.  That’s their loss.  You know what — I love cooking.  I control the costs, I control the ingredients, I control the portions, and I control how much time is spent on food preparation.  What’s not to love?

It’s all under my control.  Sure, you could argue that I don’t control the costs of the food, the grocery store does… but I devoured that little problem by sucking every last morsel of profit away from the grocery stores.  We purchase our food almost exclusively from loss-leaders.

Every week I’m scanning the grocery store ads to decide what to buy.  I’m comparing prices and building a weekly menu based on what grocery stores are giving away this week.  If it’s not on-sale, or I can’t find a deal, we simply don’t eat it.

I’m also creative enough, that we can still eat a huge variety of cuisines and recipes doing this.  Don’t believe me?  See for yourself.  I tend to post plenty of food photos and our food budget is posted every month too.

 

Consumer Subscription Services

Another area where people give-control of costs is around entertainment.  Subscription services in particular are an area where consumers are particularly ‘sticky’.  A ‘sticky’ consumer is one who doesn’t cancel a service when prices are raised.  They’re clearly not in control.

Often times consumers will choose to remain with a entertainment service despite higher prices because they like the content, or perhaps they’ve just forgotten they subscribed!

Case in point — Netflix recently raised prices in the United States for their video on demand service.  Prices were raised by 13%-18% (depending upon the package), and yet they only realized a 0.1% increase in subscriber turnover.  Like I said: sticky.

Netflix is one example of a “sticky” consumer service. Consumers seem unwilling to jump ship to other options like Hulu, or Apple TV+.  Netflix is likely going to raise prices again soon because consumers don’t seem to jump ship.

It’s not just Netflix either, there are literally dozens and dozens of subscription based services to which consumers are hooked — from music streaming services, to video games, cable internet, food delivery boxes, cell phone service….

Oh don’t even get me started on mobile telecom providers… those guys are the worst!  There’s a very good reason why I decided to go phone-less for at least a month.

These subscription services are very convenient of course, but when you sign-up for these services you give-up control over your financial life.  At least a small piece of it anyway.  Sure, they might have good programming, or the best cell network in the country, but all that has a financial cost — a cost you don’t control.

This is why our family avoids subscription services like the plague.  We know that once we sign-up for these “wonders” of modern consumerism we’ll be hooked, and then we lose control over yet one more another aspect of our financial life.

 

Housing

While there are plenty of personal finance bloggers on both sides of the rent vs. buy debate, I tend to straddle both camps.  There’s is a time and a place for both renting and a time and place for buying.  For the purposes of this post, I’m only going to be talking about the cost control aspects of real estate.

As you might expect, being an home owner holds huge control advantages in the housing game.  As an owner, you control how big your monthly payments are going to be (by deciding on the size of the home), and then locking those payments in for 30 years.  That’s a big advantage in a world filled with continuous inflation.  When a landlord is busy raising rent by 9 or 10% a year, a home owner will be safely locked into a fixed rate mortgage.

 

Sure, as a renter you could jump ship and try to find a cheaper apartment, but who really wants to move every 6 months or year?  Not to mention there’s things like kids which keep people ‘sticky’ to locations.  You don’t want to move your kids to a new school during the middle of the school year, and most parents want their kids in a good school district.  Their’s no guarantee when you find a reasonably price apartment that the school district isn’t going to suck either.

Of course, not *everything* is under your control as a homeowner — Property taxes are one cost homeowners can’t control easily.  Sure, you can fight with the city or county to keep your property taxes down, but they do typically rise along with the local housing market.  In fast growing housing markets, tax increases can add an extra thousand dollars a year to your housing costs!

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While movies like the MoneyPit like to depict home ownership as a total financial disaster, it really isn’t all that bad. Ownership comes with A LOT of control.

Other costs like renovations, home repairs, and even insurance can be controlled (to some extent) by an enterprising home owner.  You decide when and if renovations are needed, how much to spend, and which contractors to use.  If you’re willing to do a little DIY, it’s possible to keep the cost of those renovations extremely low.

Real estate isn’t without disadvantages either — The largest of which is the common mistake of consuming too much real estate.  Even though ownership offers the advantage of control, consuming too much can still be a budget killer.

 

Even More Expenses You Don’t Control

Want more examples of expenses where consumers don’t have control?  I mentioned cars in a previous section, and they’re certainly an area where consumers frequently get bilked out of many thousands of dollars.  The typical consumer, not being very mechanically minded, might notice a odd noise or a warning light on the car dash and bring the vehicle in for repairs.  They essentially hand over control of the process (what gets fixed and how much is paid) to the mechanic or car dealership.  Mechanics are always trying to ‘fix’ things that don’t need fixing, or up-selling unnecessary services.

There’s a reason why car dealerships are commonly called stealerships, because these business are notorious for ripping customers off.

In this day and age when you can find millions of free car maintenance videos on Youtube, it’s better to do a little pre-study on your car’s problem before you take it into the service center.  It might just save you thousands of dollars in unnecessary work.

You might not be a mechanically minded person, and car dealerships will take extreme advantage of this.

Financial advisers are another profession that has ripping-off customers down to a science.  I’ve written about them before… they’re basically financial vampires.  In my humble opinion, it’s far better to learn a little bit about investing instead of ceding control to someone who just wants to take your money.

I’ve said it once and I’ll say it again, “There is no one who cares more about your money than you do.”  Giving up control because you don’t have an interest in investing is a very bad idea.  Instead, develop an interest and take back control from those who would use your portfolio as a personal ATM.

 

The Out-Of-Control Ending

While I could preach endlessly about the different ways we consumers give up control over our finances, I begin to sound like a broken record at some point.  Either you’re going to get it, or you don’t.

Control over your finances is one of the most important tools you have on the road to Financial Independence.  Yet, I frequently see people handing over the keys to the kingdom in the name of excuses like “it’s convenient”, “I don’t like to do that”, or “I’m don’t have the skill set”, or “I’m not interested”.

It’s a damn shame.  Maintaining control can sometimes be a bit more work, but it’s well worth it.  Yes, you might need to do a little research, or a bit of physical work, but it’s really not all that bad.  Learning new skills and getting your hands dirty is even fun sometimes!

Should you manage to keep control over your costs (instead of handing over the control to someone else), it is my firm belief you’ll achieve financial independence far sooner than you would going down the well-trodden paths of consumerism.

Because you control the costs, you control the financial narrative!  So grab hold my friends, and tell us a fantastic story!

 

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12 thoughts on “The Onus Of Control

  • November 10, 2019 at 3:41 AM
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    “It’s an unfortunate fact that nearly 40% of adults in the United States are now obese. I’m going to go out on a limb here and say that’s too high.” ….. ya think?

    🙂

    It is sad, but as a former fat person, I commiserate with people because society has stacked the deck against us when it comes to making good health choices and staying active.

    Lastly, you’re stealing my thunder. I have an upcoming post about control as well, but I take a bit of a different tact on it. Great post!

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    • November 11, 2019 at 1:44 AM
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      I would say that society has the deck stacked against us *when we give it control over us*. Those that break free and take back control for themselves (like you appear to have done) will likely not have these same troubles.

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  • November 10, 2019 at 6:01 AM
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    Well said. I think you need to pick which areas of your life you have control and understand in others you’ve ceded control. Many people work long hours for high salaries because it makes them feel powerful / in control, but then they pay more for worse food, don’t have time to keep an eye on contractors, don’t have time to big things out, don’t have time to explore DIY, need to treat themselves b/c they work so hard, etc. But having the time to tightly control expenses and be very thoughtful about spending might have its own cost in foregone income.

    It’s where you feel you have the illusion of control and keep being forced to do things you don’t want to do that most angst arises – and you note a lot of examples where folks today are doing just that. Great post.

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  • November 10, 2019 at 7:39 AM
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    I agree with you on a lot of points. We also started to optimize our grocery shopping spendings lately and we already start seeing a sharp decline in what we’re spending for food monthly.
    I agree on limiting eating out and on taking financial matters into our own hands. I have been believing that ever since the Great Recession happened a decade ago.

    Other things are – in my opinion – personal taste and interests and I don’t think it is a good idea to criticize others for say using a subscription or using a data plan. Just because you don’t need or want these things doesn’t mean that nobody does. It is good to hint at the saving potential of those but then I would leave it at that. As long as these things only make up a small amount of the monthly expenses I don’t see no harm in them as long as they’re not stacking up. That’s exactly the reason why I’m tracking our expenses to not let it get out of hand.

    Personally I believe that if one is getting the big expenses under control and track the small ones to keep them small ending up with enough money for the long run is very likely.

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    • November 10, 2019 at 1:40 PM
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      Everybody thinks that about the small ones, but they all add up. A tidal wave starts with a single drop of water.

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  • November 10, 2019 at 12:47 PM
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    I remember a time in my life where I felt like I was not in control of my expenses. Even though I was trying to do everything I could to pull myself out of the $30k of credit card debt I was in, things always seemed to creep up that made me feel like I was not running the show.

    Maybe I was with friends and suddenly everyone in the car decided they wanted to go out to dinner. I was much younger then and Uber wasn’t a thing. I’d get swayed into going out to dinner and just trying to order the cheapest thing I could off the menu.

    Times have changed for me, but boy, I hated that feeling. It’s much nicer now to be able to make intentional decisions and be in control of your life and your expenses. For some reason, having or lacking money seems to have a sort of ability to control you to a degree and it’s an uphill battle to take it back.

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    • November 10, 2019 at 1:37 PM
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      It’s a battle I still fight every day Jim! Still battling to take back control even today!

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  • November 10, 2019 at 1:32 PM
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    I love cooking also. Agree about housing, transportation and food costs, but I think Netflix and even telecommunications costs are trivial.

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    • November 10, 2019 at 1:38 PM
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      To each his or her own I guess. Personally I relish every bit of control I can have over my life. Thx for the comment!

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    • November 10, 2019 at 2:16 PM
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      “… but I think Netflix and even telecommunications costs are trivial.”

      I’m totally with you on this one. Sure you can save some bucks on it but it makes life more complicated and less fun. It’s always a trade-off and eventually everyone needs to find their own balance with it.

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